Wanna get you Ex back?

Most everyone knows that relationships have a tendency not to last.well there must be an ups and down in a relationship. Most break ups happen because those people that are in the relationship cannot handle with the problems that it brings throughout each day. For teenagers and young adults, relationships tend to end quickly. This can leave the young women at a loss, many wishing they had their ex boyfriends back. However, before you, yourself, can attempt to do this, you must know how to get your ex boyfriend back that will not scare him away.

One of the most important questions that need to be answered before you can attempt to get the ex back is to figure out why the breakup took shape. If your ex left you, try to talk to him about why he took off. By finding out this vital information, you may be able to discern whether you have a chance to win him back. When you are able to extract this information from him, you can figure out for yourself if he is telling the truth.

Now that you have this information, are you sure want to get your ex boyfriend back? If so, you can implement your plan with five easy ways to help you out.

Staying Strong

First, be sure to stay strong. It is never good to break down in front of him especially since your aiming to get your ex boyfriend back. You want him back not frighten him away again. If you feel like you need a good cry, it is best do this when you are with other friends or on your own.

Limit Contact

When you try to contact your ex boyfriend repeatedly, he won’t have the opportunity to miss you. By contacting him less, it gives both you and your ex boyfriend time to think about the situation. Hopefully this time away will give your boyfriend some insight into how important you are in his life.

Flexibility

Never give him ultimatums if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. By lending an ear and listening to him talk, it shows that you can be sympathetic. There was a reason he left you so giving him this ultimatum only reaffirms his decision. If he issues demands, you do not have to meet him the whole way. In fact, you can try compromise on them. By doing this, you can rebuild the communication that failed.

Be Social
Just because you no longer have a boyfriend doesn’t mean you have to become a hermit. Go out with friends you haven’t seen in some time. If you need to go somewhere, live your life as normal as you can.

Be Yourself

Try to remember the time before he was around. You had your own individual identity. Isn’t that what you fell in love with? Those qualities can work for you if you want to try to get your ex boyfriend back.

Everyone has experienced a break up during his or her lifetime. It hurts but time heals all wounds. If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back, identify the problems that you both had. If both of you want another shot at a relationship then work through those problems that took a toll the first time around.

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How To Forget your Ex??

Well, its been an issues about forgetting Ex's is very hard thing to do.. There will be a tips on how to forget your ex..it you yourself has to make an effort on forgetting the past.

Since you all or maybe most of people experienced the feeling when breaking up with your partners. The first thing you should do is to accept the "FACT" or "REALITY" that your Love for him/her is going nowhere. It may take some time for you all to recover, depending on how serious your relationship was. But the sooner you accept the fact that you are no longer with him/her, and the fact that your partner is not coming back, the sooner you can begin to move on with your life.

Next. stop looking at their photographs and other thing that may remind you of them. If you are the type of person who remember the memory when seeing the things that have been given to you, one way is to throw out anything that your ex gave you. Those things may bring back memories that you don't want to remember. But you just seeing a stuff as a stuff, just let it be.. when comes to think about it, don't you guys think it is such a waste to throw or give back things that suppose to be yours??..anyway, decision is in your hand..

MOreover, you can just remove his/her phone number from your phone book and recent call list, The most important thing for you not to do is, DO not call your Ex, or Text them or E=mail them. If your Ex call you, Don't answer or reply their text messages.

Then, to forget them..you can call your friends and hang out with them. Keep your friend close,and i am sure your friends can cheer you up. They are your friends for a reason and they are here to help. Spend time in places where you can meet interesting new people and make new friends.

Plus, you can also make a list of things that you love and hate about your Ex..Well obviously going to be more on negative ones. So Whenever you miss them or you're feeling attracted to your Ex again, go over that list.

To make things work, its better to avoid from your Ex. Just Incase you guys run into each other at the same place, try to leave the place as soon as possible. but if it is not possible, just say "HI" and ask about their work. BUt remember, DON'T talk about your past relationship. Your Ex is probably trying to get over you as well.

Think of all things you can do now that you are single. You can also find something productive to do - and then do it. Alternatively, you can work hard and focus on your career. Work can be a great distraction.

And when you are ready, date other people.

As you all know that these were just some tips on how to forget about your ex. Well, anyone can use in any kind of relationship, no matter how long or short it lasted. Just for reminder, not every tip will work for you. In fact, none of them may work, or all of them could work.Either way, as long as you are able to get your Ex off your mind, then you will enjiy your day..

Am I in Love?Are U in Love?

Hm, will be discussing about this matter..how can you actually tell that you're in LOVE?..Frankly speaking, it is a really hard question to answer..but yeah, we're just discussing about it ryt? Typical scenario happen in Love. Some people may fall in and out of Love quickly and some people may think its hard while some others are never really in Love as much as they desire at the first place. But yeah, u all know that different people have different perception about Love.

But surely, it can get confusing when we are still a teen because romantic love is somewhat a new concept for teens and we don't know what to expect. basically at first, teens are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures..(cinta baru lah katakan ;p).. Trust me..it is!! HEe anyway, What do u think Love is? why do u want a romantic relationship? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? Why do you guys break up? Y?Y?Y? These questions can't be easily answered.

hm..well it maybe because of The love feeling.."LUST"...it is a very powerful, very intense feeling of attraction to another person. Usually we lust after people that we don't really know ans still we feel comfortable fantasizing about it. it is really common for people to get confuse..but why? why the feeling and Love make people so easy to mix up? hm, Lust is about physical attraction and acting only on Physical attraction. But LOVE is about much more than that. And yet many people get confuse to an attraction for some sort of blissful love..Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that.

generally Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and also trust. When you are in love, as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Like i have mention before, love is not about jealousy, not conflict, not about testing. love has a positive feeling and if it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity, then it is not a real love but shows that it is FAKE..just a pale copy..keke~

Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow.

How can we actually tell that we are in Love?There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with below statements you are probably in love.

1. hm..u actually know because you have been told by someone in you..your significant other that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your liking makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always momentary; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as peaceful when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.

How To Love?

As you all know that Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most of us will face, though not all of us did. Love is the continual act of unconditionally putting the needs of others before your own.

Steps:-

• Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", say it with a desire to show someone that you really love them. The Important thing is that when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.(well yea depends on what is it;p)
  
• Empathize. lets think yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than imposing your own expectations or attempt to control your partner, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.
• Love unconditionally. lets make simple and straight, love them the way they are, not the way they looks.what important is what u all think of their heart.If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
• Expect nothing in return. since u all love them because if them, so be with them for the sake of love, not because you have to or their looks OR their richness. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
• Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

Topics to be avoid on the FIRST DATE..

Here is the top 9 topics to avoid, unless you want the date to end early, with no second chance.

• NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR EX!

Well i suppose no one wants to hear all about your past relationship especially on the first date. Even though you may not realize it, it sounds like you still have a feeling or thing for them. Maybe you are still in Love with your EX? Saying bad things can also get you in Trouble. Your date perception to you would be different..Is he/she dating a mature people? Well as you all know, saying negative things about other people are Immature..so, would you want them to label you as an immature person?..Assuming you mention about your EX, your date might think or ask in their mind, " what am i to him/ her?"..isn't it true? Think as if you are in their shoes.. The best thing to do is not to bring the subject up, and if they do try to avoid by changing the conversation like.." I don't live in the past" or "I have forgotten between me and my Ex, Lets open a new book"..or anything that is suitable to change the topic.

• DO NOT TALK ABOUT ANY MEDICAL CONDITIONs

Just maybe your date could care less about you pet disease, or your brother blisters or your ulcer. In a way, it's gross and it really turns people away. But there is a time and place to talk about medical Issues, and the FIRST DATE is not one of them. If you have contagious disease or whatever that is very major you think you should tell them, then tell them before hand. If you did not tell them that you have a major disease, i am afraid that he/she accused you lied to them for not telling your condition. Plus, what is a date for? To find Partner for life..Keke~ But if it isn't contagious, why should you tell them on the first date.

• TRY NOT TO TALK ABOUT BODY PARTS

Why should you talk about body parts in your first date..isn't it weird?But for somehow, some people like to mention that they like someone that has a pretty smile. Though it is a compliment, some may think that their smile is not pretty enough or whatever..some people may also wonder how their teeth look like..hehe

• DO NOT COMPARE
  

It is a bad move to compare your date to anyone you know. You all also don't want to be compare with other people right, like their EX., Past Love perhaps?... Comparing a person to someone else sets to tone for an awkward moment of silence. Besides would you like to be compared to someones mom or dad?

• LEAVE ALL YOUR WILD PARTY MEMORIES AT HOME

Your date will be more impressed with positive accomplishments you have made...i know you would pretend to be someone..but, would you want to see him/her for another date?..that's the point..first Impression is the important part. Do you really think you'll impress them with stories of you getting drunk? Drunk stories make you look cheap, and immature.

• MARRIAGE IS NOT A GOOD SUBJECT
  

It's too early for marriage, it is just you first date. don't you guys think it's better to know them closely before talking about marriage. It's the first date! Don't talk about what your looking for, as in long term goals. I am afraid that you might scared your date away]LOL(^_^)] .Even if you think or know that they are the one you have been looking for your whole life. Keep it to yourself for now. The whole "I love you" and marriage ideas can wait a while.

• NO SEX ISSUES
  

Now is not the time to ask any sexual questions, if you want a second date. Will be a bad impression for you on your first date.

• AVOID ALL GROSS TOPICS

Anything that has to do with using the restroom, or someone getting sick, is not a turn on. You wouldn't openly pass gas on the first date, so don't talk about it either. hAha..i know its funny, Just DON't!

• DO NOT TALK ABOUT WEIGHT

Even if your date only orders a small salad, don't ask if they are on a diet, or watching their weight. Never ask any questions that has to deal with weight at all. Both men and women are sensitive about their size, and shape. Your date might be thin, but by making statements about weight or size, they might get the impression that your not physically attracted to them, or that you think their not in shape.

These are just 9 of the most common conversation topics that will ruin a good first date. You want to make a good impression that last, not a first impression that gets destroyed before the date is over.

What Should you do on the first Date???

You must have met someone you find very interesting. Typical question is what should you do to get to know them?So, Most people find it easy to bring that someone for a Date.

anyway, choosing an activity for a first date is an important decision.By bringing them for a Date, you hope to have someone that have things in common with you, especially if you are looking for that special someone you can spend the rest of your life with. The classic choices that still work nowadays is by bringing your date to Movies and dinners.( But it work tho)..

For instance, if you and the other person are both interested in sports, games, strolling, ETC, there is nothing wrong with attending a these kind of event together for a first date. If these matters are dear to both your hearts, it will be a welcome relief from the sometimes stressful situation of just taking in entertainment or trying to make conversation.

Well of course, that first conversation will need to take place somewhere. like restaurants, Cafe, Mall. Ask your date about themselves to choose a really hand-picked place. For instance, if you share hiking or other outdoor activities, they might enjoy a picnic in a state park followed by a short hike, rather than the traditional dinner date. Being outdoors is relaxed and refreshing. Take a look at the faces of people walking or riding bicycles. They are almost always smiling.

Things that must be note on First Date is to make that other person comfortable. If you sense that they are not happy with the environment, you can suggest some place else to go. Watch him or her for signs of discomfort and work to relieve the situation.

Dinner dates are always appropriate, but sometimes the conversation lags. If you will be visiting over dinner, think ahead about topics you'd like to discuss with your date. What specific things would you like to know about them? Ask, but don't be nosy if they seem to prefer to be private about some things.

A nice way to break the ice on a first date is to double date with another couple. If there are two other people with you, the conversation is much less likely to lag, and everyone will probably be more comfortable. Choose friends who have a stable relationship, and who like to interact with others. Don't choose friends who monopolize the conversation or who tend to fight with each other, though.

Hopefully, that date will turn out to be a really fun, interesting time of getting to know a really special, fun person. Just remember to treat them like you would want to be treated and find common ground for your relationship.

Love is not abuse, Abuse is not Love!

Love is not abuse and abuse is not love.. what do you all understand about that??..confuse..?..

Lets discuss about this matter...and from what i'm going to say below, u can actually compared on what is love and what is Abuse..Below are the characteristic of Healthy and Abusive Relationship.

DECISION MAKING
As we all know, that couple make decision together or in other word, "Joint Decision Making".In addition, Couples was suppose to share their responsibilities(the ups and down in life) coz that was they meant to be...To think that, y do people get married? I suppose it ring a bell in you right....(^_^).

Compare to this situation, One of the partner dominate everything include the decision making. Basically the Abuser decides in which it shows that only one sided decision making. To be exact, everything must be follow by his/ her own rule, the other did not get a chance to decide.

ECONOMIC EQUALITY
In healthy relationship, both partner have freedom to decide in issues of work, school and money or any other things you all prefer.They are free to find what job they like, spent their money as they like, etc. As for Abusive relationship, one of the partner deny job freedom. In other words, boyfriend/girlfriend did not want their partner to work in this some particular organization. adding up, their money also been control by the partner.

EMOTIONAL HONESTY
In healthy relationship, the partners feel safe to admit and share fears/ insecurities together. Oppositely, the boyfriend/ girlfriend manipulate the emotion. What I mean by this is, in use of jealousy, passion, stress and frustration to justify actions. commonly happen around us, one of the partner got carried away. They are not in the mood, but their partner get scolded or get a silent treatment from them..how unfair right...hehe tho sometime i did that to my Love one..(^_^)

RESPECT
In healthy relationship, partners Accept that “no” means no. In addition, couples also Respect right to differing feelings, friends and activities; also support their partner's goal or objective.

But abusive relationship, intimidate. Force partner to do things against her/his will. Can say that They are charming in Public, but menacing in private. When they are stress or what, they destroy property or hit their pets. In other words, they make light of abuse and they are just to sensitive.

PHYSICAL SAFETY
A good relationship, the partners respect partner’s physical space and also express their self non- violently.

But in abusive relationship, one of the partner abuse their mate physically for example, Hit, choke, kick, pinch,pull hair, poke, twist arms, trip, bite, restrain,use weapons, ETC.

SUPPORT and TRUST
A good relationship, the partners listen and understand carefully and both of them value their partner's opinion. Different from abusive relationship, the boyfriend/ girlfriend control their partners. They isolate their partners from his/ her family or something like mind games..(^_^)